You should definitely post your question in the forum: http://forum.tufat.com/forumdisplay.php?s=0d67706f988b2b671c07796ce68642b2&f=54

@Carlos: Thanks for pointing it out. When my webhost restored my blog, everything was all out of place. I’m involved in other things right now, as I mentioned on the front page, so I don’t have time to look into it right now.

If I recover the images, I’ll leave a note on the front page about it

I’ve written on the forum about this topic about getting new members and attracting traffic. Here are some suggestions:

- You NEED to have a niche. Trying to be a general dating site will put you into competition with companies and other sites that have a much larger marketing budget, or time to do SEO. You may think “free” is enough, but actually it’s hard to convince people to join even if your service is free. Some niches out there – dating for specific ethnicities (asian for example), dating for men under 5′8, dating for BBW’s, dating for intelligent people, dating for people who are educated, dating for people who love reading, dating for people who live in a specific city. There are so many more other there. Pick one! Once you have a niche, it’s much easier to find members.

- You should also remove the “active within” line. When I look on your site, I see members who are all active within 1 month. It makes people assume your site is DEAD, and they are less likely to join. And same goes for the “members online.” Seeing that it’s always at 0 is also not very appealing to new members. If you’re going to keep using the generator, be consistent. It says there are 0 new members this week. That looks bad.

- If you plan to target a specific city as your niche, you should advertise on Facebook for free. Sign up with the Visa Business Network (search for their Facebook page), and they’ll send you a $150 in free advertising credit. They should still have the offer, but double check anyways as it’s really a great deal. You can target people by age and network, which is really useful. Just make sure that you select people who have “single” in their profile, and are looking for “dating.” Be prepared to have your ad rejected though if you don’t follow their guidelines. http://www.facebook.com/ad_guidelines.php. Pictures greatly increase your CTR, but they won’t necessarily accept ones that seem appropriate to you. It’s subjective, but keep trying.

Also, what are your goals for the site? Are you looking to make money off it? Why are you working on it if you have 0 time to promote it?

Online dating is a time intensive business. One of the reasons why I moved on is because the customer acquisition cost is too high, plus online dating no longer interested me. If you are passionate about online dating, a good way is to start a blog and post dating advice that is interesting and fresh.

A blog hosted on Wordpress will get easily picked up by search engines, and you can join many communities (like mybloglog where you can create your own dating community and have people join it).

Hope this helps and good luck to you!

Cynthia